Writing your own wedding vows is the best way you can personalize your wedding ceremony. Before you get started, ask yourself a couple of questions about your fiancée. This will help create your opening narrative of why you love the person you are marrying.
What did you think when you first met?
What are the little daily things they do that make you smile?
When did you realize you were in love?
How did their personality create a change in yourself?
What made you realize you wanted to spend the rest of your life with this person?
After the opening you’ll want to move into the promises you are making to your fiancée. This is the most important part of your vows. Include the standard vows like, “I promise to always support you” and more personalized promises, such as “I promise to kiss you every morning”. You can even throw some non-embarrassing humor into these vows.
Remember this guideline when writing your vows: express your love, praise your fiancée, make promises, and end with a final vow.
If you and your fiancée are not brave enough to write and say your entire vows, you could personalize the “repeat after me” part of the wedding vows. This way you two can write them together and the pressure is taken off a little.